Saturday, 4 February 2017

Review: Back in the Blogging
Game with Lovedrobe

Well well, it's been a while, hasn't it? Blogging has been pretty much a non-event for me for the past year or so; in fact I only posted 5 times last year. I've taken some time out, intentionally and otherwise, to reflect and revise. One of the many conclusions that I've come to is that the world needs and deserves more fat babe representation, and so here I am (again), bringing you a funky mix of politics and plus size fashion.

Where better to start than with a review? I've known about Lovedrobe for quite some time now but have yet to purchase from them, mainly as I felt that their beautiful dresses weren't really something that I could pull off outside of a special occasion, but when they got in touch offering to gift me some items to review I thought I'd give them a go.

Their items come in sizes 16-28. I'm usually a 24/26 (top/bottom) and was advised by some plus size pals to size up, so I went for a 26 in the 'wrapover dress' in blue (product code: D00698NAVYMULTI, £49.00) and a 26/28 in the 'pleated dress' (product code: GBL920, £79.00). The wrapover dress I should've got a 24 in but it's wearable (and if you're large chested you may well need the extra room unlike me) and the pleated dress is spot on.

I opted for the wrapover dress as it's suitable for work and the pleated dress as it could be dressed up or down. They're both comfortable and good quality as far as I can tell. Honestly, I think the prices are quite high and not what I'd usually pay, but they do have a rather crackin' sale section.

PS: They offer free standard UK delivery and 10% off your first order with the code 'FIRST10'.

Sunday, 19 June 2016

Giveaway: Vevina
Anti-Chafing Cream

Around this time last summer I wrote a review of Vevina Anti-Chafing Cream and the lovely folks at Vevina gave 5 tubes away to some lucky readers. Well, they contacted me again recently to offer to give another 5 tubes away! Whoop whoop!

If you suffer from the dreaded 'chub rub' or any sort of chafing or sweat rash (under your breasts, between your thighs, under your buttocks, etc) then Vevina could be the product for you.

It looks like a hand cream, both in its packaging and consistency, but it's not greasy and won't leave any residue; simply apply to the areas needed and away you go!

Vevina is available to purchase directly via their website and is also now available on Amazon.

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Friday, 4 March 2016

Blogging is Not Your Friend

I really have no idea where I’m going with this, or if I’ll even publish it, so it’s probably not going to be my most polished piece of ‘work’ but hey, I can live with that. So, where do I start? Bloggers are not homogeneous; we are not all the same and, in fact, we’re not often alike, even though it may seem as though we are (both to ourselves and to others). Within the plus size bloggersphere, or fatosphere, it could be argued that it’s even more common to think that we are (homogeneous); particularly as a fat person wanting to form friendships with other fats.

I have formed many friendships since I started blogging, on various levels, and latterly I had (I thought) bonded strongly with a small group. Yes, had. It recently came to fruition that I did not share the same political and ethical beliefs as some of the other members and I opted to leave; my only other option being to (unjustifiably, in my view) explain my thoughts and actions to people who don’t see the world the same way that I do. Don’t get me wrong, I have friends whose opinions differ to or are not as strongly voiced as my own; but not friends that I speak to on a daily basis. I cannot ‘chat’ with people I fundamentally disagree with on a daily basis.

It’s not easy to realise that you essentially have nothing in common with the majority of the community that you’ve spent over 3 years of your life feeling a part of. When you realise that you can count your friends on your fingers, fashion for fashion’s sake doesn’t interest you anymore and brands won’t touch you with a 10ft bargepole, you start to wonder who or what you’re blogging for. You think, is there actually anything in this for me? Does anyone actually care what I say? Are people talking about me behind my back? Should I go to [insert event] when very few people actually want to see me and many will most likely go out of their way to avoid me? It’s not easy to realise that blogging and the bloggersphere/fatosphere is perhaps doing you more damaged than good, that constantly having to challenge others and be strong and defiant in both your body and your mind is taking its toll on your already weakened mental health.

I enjoy writing, but constantly pushing my work around in a responseless void is draining. I’m not recognised as body positive, radical or political. Yeah, I know this sounds very jealous/snarky/woe is me, but we all feel a bit like that and sometimes we have to acknowledge it. I’m neither nice enough, active enough nor fashionable enough to be recognised, and that’s fine, but if I can’t even get a handful of comments/responses I may as well be talking to myself, which is effectively what I’m doing right now. I’m talking to myself because very few people will actually listen, and then I don’t want to burden those that will with nonsensical drivel about ‘the internet’; which is what being a blogger boils down to, really, isn’t it? The internet. Dear WWW, unburden me, sincerely, one metaphorical small-fry.

Monday, 15 February 2016


Long time no blog! Something lighthearted and fun, for a change. A group of fellow fat babes and I, my galentines if you will, got together to arrange a loveswap for Valentine's Day. I haven't done a swap in a while (if ever, actually!) and I was keen to participate in this one, it being a difficult time of year for me for multiple reasons plus these babes are my bread and butter; I literally couldn't be without them and it's nice share things with them.

I held off opening mine until Valentine's Day itself, a fact I'm quite pleased of as I usually have zero will power or patience when it comes to these things! We'd agreed to put a card in so that people could find out who their swap/gifter was if they wanted to, although to be fair I think we all want(ed) to know anyway, plus I knew who mine was thanks to the preloved jiffy bag (you silly sausage lol!).

Anyway, how flippin' awesome are these?! Thank you my dear, you know me so well! I really hope that my loveswap is pleased with what I got her. Take a look at everyone else's blogs below to see what they got; I'm looking forward to finding out (we've not told each other)!

Daisy: http://daisysays.co.uk/
Kathryn (KK): http://www.misskathrynsmisstakes.co.uk/
Kathryn (MoG): http://murderofgoths.co.uk/
Katt: http://www.fatgirlforlife.co.uk/
Kitty/Kelly: http://www.adventuresofariotgrrrl.com/
Nikki: http://www.nattynikki.com/
Sarah: https://plussizeproud.co.uk/
Sophie: http://www.busylittlefee.com/
Tanya: http://www.secretplussizegoddess.com/

Sunday, 3 January 2016

Endorsement, Influence
and Diet Culture

TW: Dieting/weight loss. There will be mentions of these subjects in this post in (what I hope will be) a tactful manner; that is, not specifically engaging with the subject, but mentioning it in relation to body positivity and it's associated impact. Basically, it's mentioned but not in a "put down the doughnut" sort of way! (Never put down the doughnut).

Bloggers, and plus size bloggers in particular, are uniquely positioned to influence their readers and their 'community' (the fatosphere). Blogging is not akin to writing a personal diary; what you say, or do not say, matters. What you choose to promote, or not promote, has influence. Whether you're followed by tens, hundreds or thousands of people is somewhat irrelevant in this context; influence is influence, no matter how big or small.

The majority of plus size bloggers choose to use their influence to promote body positivity, and most do it very well. Now, I don't necessarily mean that every plus size blogger is a body positive advocate or activist, but being a visible fat person by nature is body positive. That being said, there are still bloggers who choose to use their influence in ways that are damaging to body positivity and, inadvertently or otherwise, damaging to their readers.

The perpetuation of diet culture still exists within the plus size blogging community; a community which, by it's very nature, already receives regular doses of negative body image through every outlet imaginable. Yes; there are still bloggers who regularly promote dieting, weight loss, clean eating, fasting, acceptable fatness and the like. There are still bloggers who think it's perfectly acceptable to use their influence to inadvertently tell their readers that their body is not acceptable, that being fat is not acceptable.

Perpetuating diet culture when you are in a position of influence is not acceptable. The fact that what you do with your own body is your own choosing is neither an excuse nor a reason to share your actions in such a way that it can be potentially damaging and/or triggering to others. There are many people, including bloggers, who have evidenced that it is perfectly viable to make changes to your own physical appearance and/or health without perpetuating diet culture through their points of influence; ergo, (it is my view that) these bloggers are actively choosing to share content that promotes negative body image.

I'm not in the business of actively calling out individuals, particularly as (a) it could potentially lead to rifts within the fatosphere/plus size blogging community and (b) there are only so many times and so many ways you can tell people the same thing, but it is my sincere hope that this post will make people aware of and begin to consider their actions.

I don't write for popularity, views or financial compensation; I write to utilise my influence.