Wednesday, 6 February 2013

How to be a Fat Bitch (#1)

Badge © The Nearsighted Owl | I'm quite terrible at reading other people's blogs, even though I have a reading list in Blogger, but I'm really glad I had a quick look on Friday and found out about The Nearsighted Owl's How to be a Fat Bitch E-course - you can read the full details (and join in if you like!) on Rachele's site, so I won't bombard you with the every detail here.

In summary, each Friday we (those following the course) are set a piece of homework and a question to discuss. This week our homework is to "write down 5 things that you are going to do that make you happy". Mine are...

1) Don't be afraid of dating (I've been thinking about signing up to a site again) - even though I've had pretty horrific experiences with men in the past, statistically they can't all be morons.

2) Get down the charity shops and start knitting - this was one of my January 'new hobby' ideas and I haven't started yet. Plus this doesn't involve people judging me (unlike singing), bonus.

3) Stop being a lazy mare, get up in the mornings and make myself LOOK and FEEL good. I feel so much more positive when I make an effort with my appearance. 

4) Carry on blogging. I enjoy it so much and yet I rarely bother to write anything.

5) Do more modelling, particularly clothed modelling. I've already enquired about a test shoot with Models of Diversity so this one is already in the bag...or at least a little bit.

Last but not least, our discussion question: "How do you deal with people that make assumptions about you based on being fat? Is the best revenge to live well and be happy? How do you feel about the concept of there being a "good fatty" and a "bad fatty" perceived in society?"

To be blunt, it aggrovates me that people make assumptions about me full stop. My weight, mental health, sexuality, etc, is none of their business unless I choose to make it so. None of my health problems are weight related - in fact I can't get treated for some of my health problems because my GP makes the assumption that everything is caused by my weight.

Is the best revenge to live well and be happy? Yes, but I'd like to point out that this does not mean going on a diet (or diets really, considering I don't know a single person who has been on ONE diet, lost weight and not put that weight back on - not a criticism...well it is, of diets, not of people). To me, revenge is pretty much saying...fuck you. Fuck you, your narrow minded view of the world and ideas of conformity. I am fat, happy and proud! (Sorry about the swearing, but it kinda loses impact if I change itto a word like 'sod'...though I'd like to tell them to sod off, too!)


  1. Love your list! Part of mine is getting up & getting ready too....just makes you feel good to take some time for you. I'm so glad this course is here to unite similar people.....it's been so fun reading through other's HW & feeling connected to them.

    ps. LOVE your anchor background! :)

  2. I also joined this as a student! im really looking forward to it! Cant wait to see everyone's homework updates! :)

    1. Awesome :D I think it's a brilliant idea! I'm looking forward to the next installment.

  3. I really get you on the doctor thing. I had such a hard time getting diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and CFS because most doctors were absolute shits to me. I also agree with the making yourself look good to feel good - if I don't motivate myself to dress in something nice and put make up on I feel a lot worse. I can't wait to see what else Rachele has planned for us. xx

    1. Ahh I'm so behind - I completely forgot to reply to this, sorry! And I still haven't caught up with the homework. I'm terrible. I need to go back to the doctors again...I can't motivate myself to make an appointment though, considering how many times I've been fobbed off, but I need to give it another shot. Will check out your homework soon x