Badge © The Nearsighted Owl | I'm quite terrible at reading other people's blogs, even though I have a reading list in Blogger, but I'm really glad I had a quick look on Friday and found out about The Nearsighted Owl's How to be a Fat Bitch E-course - you can read the full details (and join in if you like!) on Rachele's site, so I won't bombard you with the every detail here.
In summary, each Friday we (those following the course) are set a piece of homework and a question to discuss. This week our homework is to "write down 5 things that you are going to do that make you happy". Mine are...
1) Don't be afraid of dating (I've been thinking about signing up to a site again) - even though I've had pretty horrific experiences with men in the past, statistically they can't all be morons.
2) Get down the charity shops and start knitting - this was one of my January 'new hobby' ideas and I haven't started yet. Plus this doesn't involve people judging me (unlike singing), bonus.
3) Stop being a lazy mare, get up in the mornings and make myself LOOK and FEEL good. I feel so much more positive when I make an effort with my appearance.
4) Carry on blogging. I enjoy it so much and yet I rarely bother to write anything.
5) Do more modelling, particularly clothed modelling. I've already enquired about a test shoot with Models of Diversity so this one is already in the bag...or at least a little bit.
Last but not least, our discussion question: "How do you deal with people that make assumptions about you based on
being fat? Is the best revenge to live well and be happy? How do you
feel about the concept of there being a "good fatty" and a "bad fatty"
perceived in society?"
To be blunt, it aggrovates me that people make assumptions about me full stop. My weight, mental health, sexuality, etc, is none of their business unless I choose to make it so. None of my health problems are weight related - in fact I can't get treated for some of my health problems because my GP makes the assumption that everything is caused by my weight.
Is the best revenge to live well and be happy? Yes, but I'd like to point out that this does not mean going on a diet (or diets really, considering I don't know a single person who has been on ONE diet, lost weight and not put that weight back on - not a criticism...well it is, of diets, not of people). To me, revenge is pretty much saying...fuck you. Fuck you, your narrow minded view of the world and ideas of conformity. I am fat, happy and proud! (Sorry about the swearing, but it kinda loses impact if I change itto a word like 'sod'...though I'd like to tell them to sod off, too!)